Online dating right after breakup

But the truth is, things are going to be pretty difficult for awhile. Less than two years ago, the most important and constant person in my life for two years chose to leave me. I was so devastated because I lost not only my boyfriend but my best friend, the person I trusted more than anyone in the entire world. Here are some things you can do to help yourself cope and heal. Give yourself time to grieve.

I cried for about two weeks straight when my boyfriend broke up with me. I was confused and in denial. I felt like there was this hole inside of me that was never going to be filled again.

I felt weak and paralyzed. I could not eat properly and I had to result to sleeping pills to get some sleep. Dreams would haunt me and every little thing seemed to remind me of him. It is inevitable and necessary. I really felt bad about it after seeing what it did to me.

It is okay to feel all the hurt, but you have to remember to pick yourself up every time. Try articulating your feelings in a nourishing way through writing or music. Some also say new hobbies and sports helped them channel their hurt better and get over it faster. If you fought until the very end to keep it alive, then you should be proud of yourself. I know that you may feel like wallowing in self-pity because of getting left behind, but know that you will never have to live with the feeling of guilt or regret because of giving up too easily.

Distance yourself from the source of hurt. He is the source of hurt and you have to stay as far away from that as possible.

Avoid texting him, calling him or even stalking him online. He became a stranger. He will never be able to comfort you the same way he did when you were still together and neither will he be able to satisfy you with answers to your unending questions. Your relationship was damaged and the trust was broken the moment he chose to abandon you, and both of you need to heal before you can give even friendship another go.

There will come a point when anger and hatred will replace what once was pain and sadness. Be the better person. Along with anger comes the desire for revenge and justice.

Just be the bigger and better person. Stay calm, collected and classy. If he can replace you immediately after the breakup then that just says so much about him. Try looking at the brighter side of things. The breakup could be a blessing in disguise.

Make time for your family and friends who love you unconditionally. Join more organizations, focus on your goals, and make new plans for the future. Traveling helps a ton! Think of it as a learning experience and come out a better person. If you were together with your boyfriend for three years, then what is three years to the rest of your life?

Focus on yourself now. All that matters now is you and what you deserve. A couple of months ago, I loathed my then boyfriend so much that I kept thinking about all the karma that he deserved but I realize now that I should just stop thinking about what he deserves and focus more on what I deserve. Stop thinking about getting back at him and start working on bettering yourself. To tell you the truth, I almost did. Nothing worth it ever comes easy after all. Every time you fall in love, you take a risk.

Well I took a risk and ended up getting my heart broken. Who knows, it might happen again once or twice in the future. I hope you believe as much as I do and fall in love whenever you can.

Love yourself enough to know that you deserve the very best. You deserve honesty at all times. You deserve to be treated right. More From Thought Catalog.


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#1 27.08.2018 Š² 21:07 Hollywood82195:
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